"Marriage Is Over-rated" - Akin Alabi.

Nigerian Entrepreneur/Twitter Personality, Akin Alabi took to his Twitter Handle to Admonish Nigerian Women on the Importance of Self-development, saying, "Marriage is Oer- rated and should be the least of their priorities.

While subtly preaching on his handle, Akin Alabi lamented on how a lot of  Nigerian Women aspire to Marriage and not Self-development, A societal socialized behaviour that fuels Patriarchy and Toxic Masculinity.

Akin wrote;

Your friend graduates with a first class. You shrugged it off. She got a great job. You were neutral. She posted a holiday picture with her colleagues. 

You didn’t even take a second look. But when she got proposed to, you started jumping up and down excitedly. 

For you, all the progress she made all these years are “normal”. This is the ultimate. She has found a husband. You now like every post. 

You comment congratulations and go girl on every picture. To you, that is the only thing that matters. She has a man and must hold him tight. 

This is the kind of behavior and attitude that fuels patriarchy. Nigerian men know that for most women, their ultimate life ambition is getting married so they see themselves as gold. They see themselves as the vessel of happiness for women. 

Many males do not know that because you have a penis, you don’t automatically become a man. 

Unfortunately, most women don’t agree. Any man is a man. Dirty, irresponsible, vile, violent… doesn’t matter. They say, at least I have a man. 

I am not going to train my daughter to see marriage as the most important thing. I will let her value, health, education, career, finances and other things over marriage. 

Finding a good man as partner forever will be an icing for her and not the cake itself. She is the cake.